For years I have hosted a group chat about Apple, apps, tech, homescreens etc. The group has changed names plenty of time, and has changed members quite a few times over the years as well.
It has also changed apps that we use a lot, probably more times then users would like.
We have tried them all, from flash in the pan like that yahoo messenger, to Twitter group DM chats, to skype, Slack, Google Hangouts, the other google chat app, Groupme, Signal, iMessage, you name it.
It really always boils down to two apps and two distinct sets of people who love each app and won’t use the other.
There are the Telegram users, Telegram is an amazing app, it does everything you want a chat app to do and more, the negatives for myself is connectivity, it has that problem a lot, and sometimes I think it’s going to suffer from bloat, because I don’t think it knows whether it wants to be a fun social chat app or a more business focused chat app. Looks wise it’s beautiful and functionally soild though. The users who use this app generally don’t like to use a different app.
Then there are the WhatsApp users, WhatsApp is a solid app, it is the most used chat app around, it is fully featured, the look is a little dated, but it’s rock solid and I have never had any connectivity issues. It’s very slow to implement new features, and it’s biggest turn off to people is that it’s owned by Facebook. Which admittedly can be a huge turn off to some people who don’t use Facebook or are worried about privacy issues.
I tried using a Twitter DM as a happy medium but so many people hate the stock twitter app and use a 3rd party Twitter app that that wasn’t a solution either.
It always essentially boils down to these two groups of people who prefer one app or the other. And then inevitably it gets stressful to me, because when people are just chatting in a group that I have worked hard to put together what no one sees is the DMs from people saying I wish we were in Telegram, I wish we were in WhatsApp, I wish we were in Slack, then I get in my own head and think, would we get more people here? Or would we get more people there and I get stressed out and I just shut down. I say fuck it, it’s not worth my mental stress worrying about all these people when I have other things in my life to worry about, why let something fun be stressful. So then I delete all the chats and vanish for a while, then wash, rinse, repeat. It’s a never ending cycle.
What I realized now, is that maybe I will end the group chats altogether, not right now but someday, and that I can’t make everyone happy. But I am going to pick an app to stick with and keep that group and for people who wanna join great, and for people who don’t I’ll see ya some other way. And if you DM me about wishing you were in another app or bashing the current app, I’m gonna delete ya, and unfriend ya, because it’s not worth my mental stress.
And if you are interested in joining our group, please hit me up on Twitter at @Jasonmendeloff and I can add you.